The Paradox of Our Time in History

On April 20, 1999 we were all shocked by the Columbine Shootings.

Below is a poem written by one of their students.

“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints.
We spend more, but have less; buy more, but enjoy it less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees, but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment: 
more experts, but more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life.
We’ve added years to life, not life to years.
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor.
We’ve conquered outer space, but not inner space; we’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.
We’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice.
We have higher incomes, but lower morals; we’ve become long on quantity, but short on quality.
These are the times of tall men, and short character; steep profits, and shallow relationships.
These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare.
We have more leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition.
These are days of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes.
It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in the stockroom.
This is the time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to make a difference …or just hit ‘Delete’.”

The only thing we can change is ourselves. You can do it… “Change your thoughts and you change your world.” Norman Vincent Peale

To Your Success,
Marla Brucker
Peak Performance Coach

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How I Learned to Give by Receiving…

I am fortunate to be blessed with a large extended family, and we are all grateful to have each other in our lives.

When I was 16, I was visiting the East coast for a wedding and family gathering. One afternoon several of us were strolling through an antique mall. I was walking with my aunt whom I didn’t know very well, since the last time I saw her I was only 6. The single memory I had of her was at Disneyland, and she had snapped at me because I started running across a small side street (off of Main Street) to meet up with my mom. My scope of vision at that time was only in front of me. I didn’t think about looking peripherally or both ways. She left the next day.

The embedded imprint of her shout remained within that 6-year-old little girl…She never knew the impression she left.

Moving forward 10 years, I wasn’t fully comfortable around my aunt although I knew she was still a nice person. As we wandered around, I stopped in front of a China shop looking through the window. I made a comment about a small Wedgewood vase which I had never seen before; I thought it was lovely.

Without hesitation my aunt said, “I’m buying it for you for your birthday.”

I immediately said, “NO!!!” How could I allow someone I hardly knew, let alone someone I still had an ‘issue’ with, buy me something?

My aunt responded by saying that I was being selfish.

What??? How could I be selfish when I’m telling her not to buy me something?

She then proceeded to say that I was denying her the pleasure and opportunity to give me a gift.

In that moment she was able to open my eyes to see with a broader perspective, from her point-of-view and not just see it from my perspective, what was in front of me.

It was then that I realized that I was able to give by receiving. Thank you for the beautiful lesson, Aunt Dorothy!

To Your Success,

 

 

Peak Performance Coach

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Embrace Silence…

“In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you” ~ Deepak Chopra

Make time to shift gears and quiet your mind. For only in that silence are we able to truly hear the voice of our own heart, sometimes the sweetest sound of all. Music also has a unique ability to speak directly to our heart and soul. It is also one of our most beautiful forms of expression.

Self-Hypnosis, meditation, and music are known to have eased physical, emotional, and spiritual suffering of countless numbers of people. A German study found that patients who meditated or did self-hypnosis prior to surgery and/or listened to soothing music while undergoing total hip surgery required less sedation and had lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol in their blood. Less sedation and lower stress means fewer complications and a speedier recovery.

Quieting the mind, listening to your inner voice, and connecting within also increase the production of endorphins, which are natural opiate-like compounds that reduce the perception of pain…therefore:

Sing as if no one is listening.  Sing from your heart.  Pause…then embrace the silence.

After listening to your favorite music, sit for a minute or two and experience the silence you feel within. This will help you connect more into your heart space as well as help your brain integrate all that you have heard and felt while listening to the music.

Listening to music, meditating, and experiencing hypnosis, are like weaving the threads of our psychological, emotional, and spiritual selves with the threads of our physical selves into a brilliant multicolored tapestry. Enjoy the beauty of silence within…

To Your Success,

 

Peak Performance Coach

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What Does Happiness Look Like?

When you change from the inside, everything on the outside changes…

You have within you all the elements of a happy life. You may not know how to create this, but something inside of you does; the answer is within you.

We live in a state of constant change. Whether you’re aware of it or not, the process is always happening. We don’t always notice the transformations taking place, but we often witness it in our children and in others around us.

Life is about recalibrating and recreating ourselves daily. By changing our habits we change our lives.

If change is the one thing you can be sure of, the goal is to figure out how you can use that certainty to your advantage and to modify and transform your day-to-day being. Be mindful! We are not meant to stagnate; therefore, master the habits of your everyday life.

The best way to stay in a steady makeover mode is to take care of and fill yourself with love and loving thoughts. Eat food that is delicious to you and to your body. Engage in loving practices like giving yourself the gift of stillness at least five minutes a day. Surround yourself with people who bring you light, and banish all forms of negative energy.

When you care about yourself enough to embrace change, you’re on the path that will lead you home to happiness.

The value you give yourself is the value the world reflects back to you.

To Your Success,

 

 

Peak Performance Coach

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Be the Best Version of Yourself… Changing Your Perspective Changes Your Life

“When you hold on to your history, you do it at the expense of your destiny.” ~ TD Jakes

When did you last look into your “magical” mirror to see yourself the way that others truly see you?  You’ll be surprised when you realize that the person reflecting back at you is truly amazing.

If you’re like most people, we just focus on our flaws and that’s all we see reflecting back to us. If only we could see and appreciated ourselves the way others do.

Your thoughts are the results of your beliefs; therefore, any limiting belief you have about yourself will only interfere with your life’s journey. You need to change those stories to create new beginnings.

 

“You are who you’ve been looking for.” (Great poem by Adam Roa)

 

Stop looking for more outside of yourself, unless you look into the mirror and truly see who you’re looking for. You ARE enough−now become even a better version of that!

Ninety-nine percent of the time the only thing standing between you and your goals are the stories you keep telling yourself about why you can’t achieve them.

Life changes every single day and so can you. Yet oftentimes we feel stuck against our will because change can breed uncertainty, and self-doubt begins to creep in along with the old stories. We then begin filling our thoughts with those made-up stories about how life is and why we can’t achieve what we want.

 

What stories do you tell yourself?

Do they involve you being the confident hero of your story, or a character that doesn’t believe you’re good enough and therefore you’re reluctant to even try? If you’re thinking the latter, you’re not alone.

Why is it that some of the stories we tell ourselves about our desires and goals tend to follow along these same unfavorable lines? And as soon as the going gets slightly tough, we begin to back peddle and then fall back into our old ways…

Think about a story you started telling yourself the minute you realized you weren’t making progress as fast as you expected. This is quite significant since the story you tell yourself in your head is often the one that gets written in your reality. We empower what we think about the most.

 

Change the story you’re telling yourself, and be the hero of your new story.

Remember: it takes time, patience, and commitment when it comes to making significant changes along your personal journey. Changes happen when you tell yourself the right story; the one with an unmistakable hero, played by YOU.

You CAN start over again! No one wins a game of chess by only moving forward; sometimes you have to move backward to put yourself in a position to win.

There will always be things we aren’t able to notice, as they are in our blind spot. Your “magical” mirror will help you see those blind spots. Seek out a coach, a mentor, and even a hypnotherapist to help you see with a better perspective and put you on the path of greatness. Your mirror is a valuable tool that reflects that hero back to you.

Achieve what you think is impossible by changing your beliefs into that which is possible. 

May 2018 be filled with the abundance of all wonderful things!

 

To Your Success,

 

 

Peak Performance Coach

 

 

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Boost Your Memory and Brainpower…

“There is no problem without a gift in its hands.”

Want to remember something? Just make a fist!!!

Have you ever forgotten where you parked your car at the airport, shopping center, or elsewhere? Or you forgot someone’s name right after you’ve been introduced…or even forgot the name of the movie you saw the night before?   Well, you’re not alone.

The next time you want to remember something, just make a fist!

I know it sounds crazy, but it’s actually been proven to work. Scientific studies have shown that making a fist with your right hand activates the left side of your brain, and making a fist with your left hand activates the right side of your brain.  It’s like a mirror image.

Scientists also know that the left side of your brain is in charge of storing memories, while the right side of your brain is in charge of recalling those same memories.

This made researchers wonder…could making a fist with your right hand help you ‘store’ something you want to remember? And could making a fist with your left hand help you ‘recall’ it when you need to?

They decided to test their theory with a rather wicked memory test. They showed a group of people 36 words like elephant, tattoo, balloon, and hot dog…and gave them 5 seconds to memorize them. Then they asked the participants to write down as many of the words they could remember.

Half of the group used the ‘fist trick’ and the other half didn’t. The results were astonishing!  The people who used this clever ‘fist trick’ did amazingly better!!!  It was like the difference between getting an “A” or a “C” on an exam.

So before jetting off after the next time you park your car at the airport, shopping center, or elsewhere, make a tight fist with your right hand and say “row 21C”. And when you return, just squeeze your left fist and “bingo” you’ll know where you left your car!

“You are the cause of your own experience. If you are the cause, you can change it.” 

Have a great holiday,

Marla Brucker

Peak Performance Coach

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