Don’t Let Unhappy Be Your Happy Place…

Have you ever noticed that a positive attitude is infectious?

Life is full of obstacles and uncontrollable events, and in many situations the only thing we can control is the attitude with which to respond. We create our destiny every single day and most of the difficulties we suffer from are directly traceable to our attitude about those challenges.

It’s up to you to keep making the right choices regarding how you respond to things.  You’ll find that there’s nothing better than feeling like you’re in control. If you’re serious about letting go of stuff such as anger, resentment, anxiety, weight, or making other changes in your life, STOP taking the path of least resistance and get to work by changing your attitude.

Demand more out of life! In other words, start by changing your routines and shake up your life!!! When you change things, you’re rewiring your brain to be happy. Flip that switch and rewrite your script. If you don’t like what you’ve written so far, CHANGE IT!  You’re the creator, writer, producer, director, and performer on your one-person show.

Many people come to me for hypnosis looking for ways to feel happier, and that’s because people tend to hold on to stuff–either situations from the past or even what may be going on in their lives now. How you deal with it is always up to you.

Nelson Mandela was once asked if he had any resentment or anger toward the government that had imprisoned him for 27 years, and especially since he only received a mere apology when released. His response was, “Anger and resentment held within is as if I’m swallowing poison in hope that it will hurt them.” Think about it–it’s not hurting them; it’s only hurting you.

I have one regret that I want to share with you. A year after Nelson Mandela became a free man again I happened to be in downtown La Jolla, California where I was drawn into a shop I had never been into before. Walking around, I noticed many framed etchings on the walls, some in simple pastels and some in pencil. They didn’t look like drawings I would normally have seen in a gallery, but for some reason I was attracted to them. It was then that I noticed the signature and read the post about the artist, the person…

The drawings were from Nelson Mandela, depicting his life while incarcerated. I was surprised to see that none of his etchings depicted any anger. On each picture he had written an uplifting message even though he was locked away. My regret was I didn’t buy one of his drawings, as they were for sale. I thought too long, and three weeks later I went back to that store and the exhibit was gone.

That is when I learned to seize the moment. Take action, and start today!

 

To Your Success,

Marla Brucker, DCH, R.HA
Peak Performance Coach

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Are You Really Listening?

(Recapped Article from Marc Chernoff)

This past December a busy attorney named Valentina and her 10-year-old son, Marco, moved into their new home in New England.  The morning after they moved a massive snowstorm swept through closing all the schools.

Although young students like Marco suddenly had the day off from school, Valentina still needed to visit her office for a couple hours to finish up some important paperwork with a new client.  So, despite the snowstorm, Valentina drove to work, leaving Marco in their nearly snowed-in home to write a short essay that was assigned by his teacher to make up for the missed school day.

Shortly after arriving at her office Valentine received a text message from Marco that read: “Windows completely frozen. Will not open.”

Valentina looked at her phone in confusion because she couldn’t fathom why Marco wanted to open any of the windows. She didn’t have time to sort out the details, so she quickly texted Marco a simple fix she had learned as a child growing up in the mountains: “Warm up a cup of water in the microwave, pour it evenly over the edges, then lightly tap the edges with a mallet.”

Valentina then hurried into her meeting. While she was working with her client, she felt her phone vibrate from a few new text messages. An hour later when the meeting was over, she finally read the text messages.

The first text from Marco read, “What? Are you sure that works?”

Then, “Please hurry up!  I have to turn in my essay soon!”

Finally, “The laptop is dead!”

Confused by the messages, Valentina called Marco and asked, “What’s wrong with the laptop?”

He sounding distraught and irritated and said, “I don’t know, I poured warm water over all of its edges and tapped them with a mallet, just like you told me to. But now it won’t even turn on.”

Valentina suddenly realized that her 10-year-old son’s initial text message was not about the windows of their new home…rather, he had texted her about the Windows operating system that runs his laptop computer!  Marco’s laptop was simply frozen. But now, thanks to a cup of warm water and the light tapping of a mallet, it was indeed dead!

REMEMBER: In life, in business, and in our relationships, the biggest mistakes can arise from the smallest misunderstandings. We can avoid these misunderstandings with a simple approach to slow down, really listen to others, and clarify what they mean. It will take a few more moments of your time, but it will also save you from headaches and heartache later on!

One of the greatest problems in communication is the illusion that has taken place.

  • Too many people don’t really listen to understand – they listen to reply.
  • We often respond based on our own perception of our reality, not theirs.
  • We collectively misunderstand each other which results in unnecessary and misunderstood mistakes.

 

And, like you, I’m only human – I still miscommunicate and misunderstand people, especially when I’m in a hurry.

So here are simple strategies to support the practice of paying better attention to the people in your life:

  • Do not make assumptions unless you undoubtedly know the whole story. If in doubt, ask the person directly until you have clarity.
  • Be curious and listen for what’s truly behind the words. Listen with genuine curiosity, and not with the intent to reply.
  • If you only hear what you want to hear, you’re not really listening. Listen to what you don’t want to hear too–that’s how we grow stronger.
  • You never know what someone has been through that day, so don’t make empty judgments about them or their situation. Be kind. Be teachable. Be a good friend. Be a good listener.
  • Sometimes all a person needs is an empathetic ear – they just need to know someone else hears them.  Simply offering a listening ear and a kind heart can be incredibly healing.

 

When you take the time to actually listen, with humility, to what people have to say, it’s amazing what you can learn…especially if the people who are doing the talking also happen to be the people you love.

 

To Your Success,

 

Marla Brucker, DCH, R.HA
Peak Performance Coach

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Hi, It’s Me, Your Subconscious Mind…

“Dear Conscious Mind, We Need to Talk!!!”

…I’m having a problem with what you’ve been feeding me. I mean–those negative thoughts of self-doubt. And what about the stories you tell yourself of limitations or even scarcity?

…And then there’s the negativity of the news you listen to or what you may even read on Facebook. That’s not good!!!

…You should know that I really soak up that stuff! And I can’t help but leech it back out; that’s what I do–soak up stuff and give it back to you.

…From time to time, I can see all that negativity affecting your beliefs, attitude, and even your ambition. And that makes my job much harder to help you switch that around.

…So I need your help. I know I could do so much more for you if you only fed me better.

…Do me a favor – cut back on negative messages for a while. STOP the inner chatter that doesn’t serve you.

 …Turn off the news for a day or two (even more if you like). Don’t read those Facebook posts about doom and gloom, and then notice how much better you will feel.

…I can help you discover how easy it is to focus on the really important things in life and attract abundance all around. Whether you value friends, fine dining, travel, relaxation, nature… you can attract anything when your mindset is clear and focused.

…Let me work better for you – I can help you transform. All you need to do is feed me with positive thoughts to help you stay focused on great possibilities and the opportunities along your journey.

…Would you like that? Then work with me and give me something positive to chew on. Feed me those things you want from life. I know I can help you, and really set you up for some big wins. All you need to do is feed me the right way.

…I’m ready. Are you?”

Love,

Your Subconscious Mind

 

P.S. If you’d like to feed your subconscious mind with the help from some bountiful and powerful tools, check out our next training in Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy. It’s beneficial for everyone seeking the abundance of all good things not only on a professionally basis, but on a personal one as well. The secret is to use hypnosis to bypass the critical factor of your conscious mind and make the shift to an abundant mindset.

 

To Your Success,

 

Marla Brucker, DCH. R.HA

Peak Performance Coach

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Trapped in the Isolation of Our Mind…

“There is a story behind every person. There is a reason they are the way they are.  Respect them for who they are.”  ~Marc and Angel

Like many fairy tales, there are underlying messages within the story; and that too is true about the tale of Rapunzel which has a deeper meaning about one’s self-image.  Rapunzel was a young lady who lived locked up in a castle imprisoned by an old witch who continually tells her how ugly she is. One day a handsome prince passes by the tower and tells Rapunzel of her loveliness. Being insecure about her looks and after hesitating for a time, she finally let down her long golden locks so the prince could climb her hair to visit her.

Trapped in isolation for so long, it was neither the castle nor the witch that had kept her a prisoner, but the belief in her own ugliness. When she recognized her beauty reflected in the face of her prince charming, she was able to set herself free.

We all need to be aware of the ‘witch’ inside ourselves that has been stopping us from breaking free.

Our subconscious behaviors and programming are intertwined with our self-image.  When we have negative or limiting self-talk, we tend to take it out on ourselves. This may take the form of junk food binges, smoking, accidents, illness, overindulgences in alcohol or drugs, etc. This is not something that is necessarily a conscious act, although the first step is to realize that how we treat ourselves is a reflection of how much we like ourselves at any given time.

It is essential that we stay focused on positive thinking to be happy. A bad self-image can lead to subconscious sabotaging of one’s own happiness; that’s what caused Rapunzel to remain imprisoned until she was ready to set herself free from the witch within.

Change is oftentimes difficult, but hypnosis can help liberate oneself. The hardest part of the journey to one’s magnificence is believing that you are worthy.   

Remember to be the fullest expression of You…Happiness.

To Your Success,

Marla Brucker, DCH, R.HA

Peak Performance Coach

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The Best Revenge -> LIVE LIFE WELL

Last week my 3-year-old grandson Ollie came to my house to play. He immediately asked to listen to the song “Let it Go” from the movie “Frozen.” I’ve heard the song before, but I had never really heard it.

I pulled it up on YouTube so we could watch and listen to it at the same time. To my surprise, Ollie knew all the words and bellowed out the song. For me, that was the first time I really listened to its meaning.

That afternoon I read the lyrics to my NLP class without letting them know that they were from the movie “Frozen.” Each one basically said that the words described how they felt in their life either in the past or even now.

I invite you to really listen to some of the lyrics of the song “Let it Go”:

“…The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside,

Couldn’t keep it in; heaven knows I’ve tried.

Don’t let them in, don’t let them see, be the ‘good’ girl you always have to be.

Conceal, don’t feel; don’t let them know…

Well, now they know…Let it go, let it go.

Can’t hold it back any more…Let it go, let it go.

Turn away and slam the door, I don’t care what they’re going to say.

Let the storm rage on, the cold never bothered me anyway.

It’s funny how some distance makes everything seem small,

and the fears that once controlled me can’t get to me at all. 

It’s time to see what I can do, to test the limits and break through. 

No right, no wrong, no rules for me, I am one with the wind and sky. I’m Free!

…I’m never going back; the past is in the past. Let it go, let it go.

And I’ll rise like the break of dawn, let it go, let it go, the ‘perfect’ girl is gone. 

Here I stand in the light of day. Let the storm rage on, the cold never bothered me anyway….”

How many of you can relate to those words?

Well instead of waiting for the storm to pass, go out and dance in the rain. Never give your power away as others won’t use it right. Take the power yourself to create your dreams. Always belief in yourself and surround yourself with others who believe in you.

“You can alter your life by altering your mind. Change your thoughts and you change your world.” ~Norman Vincent Peale

 

To Your Success,

Marla Brucker, DCH, R.HA

Peak Performance Coach

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In One Word – Who Are You?

Here are some questions to ponder:

What would you do differently if you knew no one would be judging you?

What’s something that no one can ever take from you?

What’s the most valuable life lesson you learned from a mistake?

What impact do you want to leave on the people you love?

What’s something simple that makes you smile?

What’s something that used to scare you but no longer does?

What do you have total confidence in?

What do you want to remember forever?

What would your life be like if you truly trusted your inner voice?

What are your special gifts?

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched…but are felt from the heart.”
 ~Helen Keller

 

Believe in yourself and surround yourself with others who believe in you.

 

To Your Success,

Marla Brucker, DCH, R.HA

Peak Performance Coach

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