Boost Your Memory and Brainpower…

“There is no problem without a gift in its hands.”

Want to remember something? Just make a fist!!!

Have you ever forgotten where you parked your car at the airport, shopping center, or elsewhere? Or you forgot someone’s name right after you’ve been introduced…or even forgot the name of the movie you saw the night before?   Well, you’re not alone.

The next time you want to remember something, just make a fist!

I know it sounds crazy, but it’s actually been proven to work. Scientific studies have shown that making a fist with your right hand activates the left side of your brain, and making a fist with your left hand activates the right side of your brain.  It’s like a mirror image.

Scientists also know that the left side of your brain is in charge of storing memories, while the right side of your brain is in charge of recalling those same memories.

This made researchers wonder…could making a fist with your right hand help you ‘store’ something you want to remember? And could making a fist with your left hand help you ‘recall’ it when you need to?

They decided to test their theory with a rather wicked memory test. They showed a group of people 36 words like elephant, tattoo, balloon, and hot dog…and gave them 5 seconds to memorize them. Then they asked the participants to write down as many of the words they could remember.

Half of the group used the ‘fist trick’ and the other half didn’t. The results were astonishing!  The people who used this clever ‘fist trick’ did amazingly better!!!  It was like the difference between getting an “A” or a “C” on an exam.

So before jetting off after the next time you park your car at the airport, shopping center, or elsewhere, make a tight fist with your right hand and say “row 21C”. And when you return, just squeeze your left fist and “bingo” you’ll know where you left your car!

“You are the cause of your own experience. If you are the cause, you can change it.” 

Have a great holiday,

Marla Brucker

Peak Performance Coach

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Gratitude…Take a Moment and Reflect

Gratitude…Take a Moment and Reflect

Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier.”
~Mother Teresa

Whenever I work with a client, I begin the session by having them think of at least five things they are grateful for, and at the end of each session I have them take a moment to send love and gratitude to themselves.

This past December, my siblings and I lost our Mom (our Dad passed 3-1/2 years prior). Growing up we were always aware of who they were as loving parents, grandparents, the Patriarch and Matriarch for our extended families, and well respected in the community of which they also gave back to. Those were things we observed while growing up, but didn’t fully appreciate. Over the years–and especially now feeling the absence of their presence–I truly appreciate who they were, basking in the special gifts they gave us through their example.

When I was 15, my Dad sat me down to have a talk with me. My Dad was a kind and humble man, who was very logical and wise…but a talk? Yikes!

He began the conversation by telling me “not try to rush and try to grow up too fast;” stating that “as you get older, time seems to go so much faster.”

Well, that 15-year-old in me couldn’t wrap my head around such a statement since we all exist on a 24-hour day. I kept thinking, “How can life be slow for me and goes so much faster for him?”   

Wow, he was right!!!

I invite you to take a moment to pause and reflect on those things you are grateful for. Make sure you always look for the good; anything less than that should be put it in your past and only become a reflection of learning. Take those lessons as a springboard to moving forward along your life’s journey towards greater happiness and well-being.

Gratitude is the ability to look within; to realize and appreciate what you have. Thank yourself for who you are. Thank your body for the wonderful work it does for you–your health and mobility as well as your mind.  Send love and gratitude to yourself daily…and then send it out into the universe.

Most of all…have fun!!!

To Your Success,

 

 

Marla Brucker

Peak Performance Coach

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The Beauty of Human Kindness

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”  ~Aesop

Imagine a stick…by itself it can be weak; yet if broken into many pieces and bundled together they become strong.

Within the last month we’ve all watched, and/or felt the devastating earthquakes, hurricanes, and fires within our country and surrounding neighbors.

What amazed me was how so many of us did our part to help: volunteer rescue workers, donations of all kinds, and we even watched people form human chains to help others, even strangers.

I’m reminded of this story I’ve told before.

Have you ever noticed geese always fly in the formation of a “V”?  Each bird flaps their wings creating uplift for the birds immediately following.

Flying in the “V” formation adds 70% greater flying range than if they flew on their own.  When one falls out of formation, all the other geese feel the drag and resistance of going alone and quickly goes back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the birds in front.

The geese honk from behind as encouragement to the ones up front to keep up their speed. It helps to advance them all. Yet what message do we give others when we honk from behind???

If the head goose tires, it falls back into the formation and one of the two following geese takes over.

Finally, if a bird gets sick or wounded and falls out of formation, two other geese follow it down to lend help and protection. They stay with the bird until it either dies or is able to fly again. Then they join together into a “V” formation until they can catch up with their group or join another.

When we feel alone or are having challenges, we benefit with the help and support of others. Hypnosis is a great avenue to help you feel more connected.

Support others along your journey and remember to stop to help those less fortunate than ourselves…just like the geese. People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going more quickly and easily because they are traveling on the thrust of one another.

We are stronger in numbers sharing the same planet as human beings when we work together as one.

“Love and compassion are the necessities, not luxuries.  Without them, humanity can’t survive.” ~His Holiness the Dalai Lama

 

To Your Success,

Marla Brucker, DCH, R.HA

Peak Performance Coach

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Life Is To Be Celebrated…Replace the Meaningless With Meaningful

“The greatest discovery is that humans can alter their lives by altering their minds.”   

~ William James

 

As we get older we learn to value our time, genuine relationships, meaningful work, and peace of mind. Our thoughts become quieter, life humbles us, and we begin to refocus our attention on what truly matters.

I’m often wondering why it takes so long for us to realize the value of living in the NOW and celebrating life. If you’re like the majority of us, we become so consumed with constant multitasking that we become distracted and lose that focus. We give too much of our time to meaningless time wasters, which causes unnecessary stress to the best of us.

We get caught up in the whirlwind of life’s demands and responsibilities. We try to distract ourselves to numb the stresses we feel, but by doing so we also distract ourselves from what matters the most. We rush through our days until we’re left questioning where the time went.

But it doesn’t have to be this way anymore!

Become an active and passionate participant in life. Live for today, tomorrow, and every tomorrow. Accept those things you can’t change, and change within yourself what you want to change. The only thing you really have control over is your thoughts. This simple understanding is the foundation of acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be peace of mind and serenity.

Peace can be found within you at any place and at any time. It’s always there…waiting for you to turn your attention inward and experience a quiet stillness. It happens when you let go of the need to be anywhere else but where you are now–physically and emotionally.

The same part of you that longs for peace of mind is the same part of you that experiences peace of mind. It’s easy to achieve and it’s as close as your next thought.

There are moments when I wish I could roll back time and redo things with the wisdom I have now, but there are no repeats in life. We can’t change the past, but we can learn from it by bringing the lessons and wisdom to the forefront of our learning. We can’t change what we can’t change. No one can. But what we can change is our attitude, and celebrate life.

“Let your smile change the world, but don’t let the world change your smile.”  ~Connor Franta

 

To Your Success,

Marla Brucker, DCH. R.HA
Peak Performance Coach

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Don’t Let Unhappy Be Your Happy Place…

Have you ever noticed that a positive attitude is infectious?

Life is full of obstacles and uncontrollable events, and in many situations the only thing we can control is the attitude with which to respond. We create our destiny every single day and most of the difficulties we suffer from are directly traceable to our attitude about those challenges.

It’s up to you to keep making the right choices regarding how you respond to things.  You’ll find that there’s nothing better than feeling like you’re in control. If you’re serious about letting go of stuff such as anger, resentment, anxiety, weight, or making other changes in your life, STOP taking the path of least resistance and get to work by changing your attitude.

Demand more out of life! In other words, start by changing your routines and shake up your life!!! When you change things, you’re rewiring your brain to be happy. Flip that switch and rewrite your script. If you don’t like what you’ve written so far, CHANGE IT!  You’re the creator, writer, producer, director, and performer on your one-person show.

Many people come to me for hypnosis looking for ways to feel happier, and that’s because people tend to hold on to stuff–either situations from the past or even what may be going on in their lives now. How you deal with it is always up to you.

Nelson Mandela was once asked if he had any resentment or anger toward the government that had imprisoned him for 27 years, and especially since he only received a mere apology when released. His response was, “Anger and resentment held within is as if I’m swallowing poison in hope that it will hurt them.” Think about it–it’s not hurting them; it’s only hurting you.

I have one regret that I want to share with you. A year after Nelson Mandela became a free man again I happened to be in downtown La Jolla, California where I was drawn into a shop I had never been into before. Walking around, I noticed many framed etchings on the walls, some in simple pastels and some in pencil. They didn’t look like drawings I would normally have seen in a gallery, but for some reason I was attracted to them. It was then that I noticed the signature and read the post about the artist, the person…

The drawings were from Nelson Mandela, depicting his life while incarcerated. I was surprised to see that none of his etchings depicted any anger. On each picture he had written an uplifting message even though he was locked away. My regret was I didn’t buy one of his drawings, as they were for sale. I thought too long, and three weeks later I went back to that store and the exhibit was gone.

That is when I learned to seize the moment. Take action, and start today!

 

To Your Success,

Marla Brucker, DCH, R.HA
Peak Performance Coach

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Are You Really Listening?

(Recapped Article from Marc Chernoff)

This past December a busy attorney named Valentina and her 10-year-old son, Marco, moved into their new home in New England.  The morning after they moved a massive snowstorm swept through closing all the schools.

Although young students like Marco suddenly had the day off from school, Valentina still needed to visit her office for a couple hours to finish up some important paperwork with a new client.  So, despite the snowstorm, Valentina drove to work, leaving Marco in their nearly snowed-in home to write a short essay that was assigned by his teacher to make up for the missed school day.

Shortly after arriving at her office Valentine received a text message from Marco that read: “Windows completely frozen. Will not open.”

Valentina looked at her phone in confusion because she couldn’t fathom why Marco wanted to open any of the windows. She didn’t have time to sort out the details, so she quickly texted Marco a simple fix she had learned as a child growing up in the mountains: “Warm up a cup of water in the microwave, pour it evenly over the edges, then lightly tap the edges with a mallet.”

Valentina then hurried into her meeting. While she was working with her client, she felt her phone vibrate from a few new text messages. An hour later when the meeting was over, she finally read the text messages.

The first text from Marco read, “What? Are you sure that works?”

Then, “Please hurry up!  I have to turn in my essay soon!”

Finally, “The laptop is dead!”

Confused by the messages, Valentina called Marco and asked, “What’s wrong with the laptop?”

He sounding distraught and irritated and said, “I don’t know, I poured warm water over all of its edges and tapped them with a mallet, just like you told me to. But now it won’t even turn on.”

Valentina suddenly realized that her 10-year-old son’s initial text message was not about the windows of their new home…rather, he had texted her about the Windows operating system that runs his laptop computer!  Marco’s laptop was simply frozen. But now, thanks to a cup of warm water and the light tapping of a mallet, it was indeed dead!

REMEMBER: In life, in business, and in our relationships, the biggest mistakes can arise from the smallest misunderstandings. We can avoid these misunderstandings with a simple approach to slow down, really listen to others, and clarify what they mean. It will take a few more moments of your time, but it will also save you from headaches and heartache later on!

One of the greatest problems in communication is the illusion that has taken place.

  • Too many people don’t really listen to understand – they listen to reply.
  • We often respond based on our own perception of our reality, not theirs.
  • We collectively misunderstand each other which results in unnecessary and misunderstood mistakes.

 

And, like you, I’m only human – I still miscommunicate and misunderstand people, especially when I’m in a hurry.

So here are simple strategies to support the practice of paying better attention to the people in your life:

  • Do not make assumptions unless you undoubtedly know the whole story. If in doubt, ask the person directly until you have clarity.
  • Be curious and listen for what’s truly behind the words. Listen with genuine curiosity, and not with the intent to reply.
  • If you only hear what you want to hear, you’re not really listening. Listen to what you don’t want to hear too–that’s how we grow stronger.
  • You never know what someone has been through that day, so don’t make empty judgments about them or their situation. Be kind. Be teachable. Be a good friend. Be a good listener.
  • Sometimes all a person needs is an empathetic ear – they just need to know someone else hears them.  Simply offering a listening ear and a kind heart can be incredibly healing.

 

When you take the time to actually listen, with humility, to what people have to say, it’s amazing what you can learn…especially if the people who are doing the talking also happen to be the people you love.

 

To Your Success,

 

Marla Brucker, DCH, R.HA
Peak Performance Coach

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