“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~Wayne Dyer
In my hypnotherapy practice, I coach my clients to create their future by moving toward their goals, looking forward to what’s ahead in their lives, and helping them let go of the grips of the past. Many people hold on to their past so tightly that looking ahead is almost impossible.
It reminds me of a young child putting his hand into a candy jar and trying to grab as much candy as possible, but then a problem arises. By clutching the candy so tightly, the child’s fist becomes bigger. He struggles to pull his hand out and becomes frustrated and then angry that he finally releases his grip and lets it all go.
Unfortunately, people tend to do the same thing and just can’t let things go. They blame their past for the life they are living now, which often dictates their future.
The basic concept is to let go and take what we can from the experience, learn from the adversities, and then move on. I often wonder why we remember the not-so-good experiences rather than the good.
Peter J. Daniels is an author, life coach, and professional speaker. Growing up wasn’t easy for him. When he was in the fourth grade, his teacher constantly told him that he was ‘no good, a bad apple, and would never amount to anything.’ Peter was illiterate until he was 26. That was when a friend read him the book, “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. That inspired him to learn to read.
Peter transformed himself and his life by no longer owning those old limiting beliefs. Now, he owns several street corners that he used to fight on as a teenager and has also written and published 13 books, including “How to Reach Your Life Goals” and “How to Be Happy.” If Peter had held on to the old beliefs that his fourth-grade teacher drummed into his head, he would not have gifted us with his significant writings and motivational messages. His journey is a powerful example of how personal growth can empower us to overcome even the most challenging past adversities.
We can’t change what was, but we can change what is. Gift yourself by taking the wisdom from the past and applying it to now as you create your future.
Letting go isn’t only about having the courage to release the past; it’s about having the wisdom and strength to embrace the present.
Make kindness a habit.
To Your Success,
Peak Performance Coach